Hennepin County licensor Sunita Persaud interviewed Josephine Dorsey who has fostered for over 30 years. Read her inspirational comments below.
What initially inspired you to become a foster parent?
From the very young age of 12, growing up in Mississippi, there were children in my neighborhood that were struggling with poor hygiene, including hair care. I started a hair combing care time for several children. I could see sadness in their faces and decided to do something about it. We made it fun and at the same time I could see how it lifted their spirits. After moving to Minnesota and in my adulthood, I started mentoring a few of my daughter’s high school friends. One of their mothers suggested that maybe I should do foster care. So here I am, thirty years later.
What do you find most rewarding about fostering?
It has been one of the most rewarding times in my life putting effort into helping develop and shape their future. Many of the individuals I fostered have stayed in touch with me and I have had the opportunity to meet their children and even their grandchildren.
How has fostering impacted your family dynamic?
Fostering has definitely strengthened my family by being more thankful, showing compassion for those in need, and understanding the difficult circumstances children in foster care face.
Do you feel like you are making a difference in the lives of the children you foster? What about their families/parents?
Yes, without a doubt. My goal from the start was to make a lasting impact on a child’s life. I realized early on that a child will test you to see if you are in it for the long haul and not just the money. Having their family/parents involved whenever possible and deemed to be safe is good for the child, as long as it aligns with the case plan and courts. It's very important to their emotional well-being in dealing with issues of abandonment, anxiety, and having a parent in their life.
What support system do you rely on to manage the demands of fostering?
My support system consists of family, social workers, mental health services, church, resources for foster families, etc.
What are the most important things you try to provide for the children in your care?
A safe and stable environment, clear boundaries with consistent rules to provide structure and a sense of order, and never forgetting to show human kindness and love. It is also important to spend quality time in getting to know the children in care, being a good listener and role model, and treating them with respect. And of course, it’s essential to provide day-to-day care.
Do you have any advice for someone considering becoming a foster parent or to newly licensed foster parents?
Get as much information on the child’s past as possible to gain insight and learn from their experience. Be patient and understand that children may have emotional and behavioral challenges from past experiences. Try to understand the reason for their behavior.
It’s rewarding but can be a challenging journey. It’s very important to maintain and establish healthy boundaries.
Set aside time for your own well-being and seek help when needed.
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