By Eric Bragazzi, Training & Organizational Development Specialist
For those of you who have been receiving this newsletter for some time now, you are aware that our team typically selects a topic or subject to write editorials about that reflects the season, holiday, or month. When asked about ideas for the May newsletter, I was drawn towards the word “recognition”. I have to admit my own biases are at play here. As I look back over the past years, the month of May has had significant meaning for me and who I am today. To start, it’s hard to escape May without recognizing all the Mamas of the world. Happy Mother’s Day! I appreciate you. I can’t help but think of, and recognize everything my mother has done for me over the years. The tears, the sacrifices, the support, and above all, the love. Next, May is when I first gave recognition to who I am. I will never forget sitting alone in LAX, struggling with the idea that I wasn’t like the majority of the world, and that I had potentially lost the boy I loved because I was hiding in that dark place that the world has deemed “The Closet”. It was at that moment I recognized how miserable my life would be if I didn’t acknowledge and begin accepting who I am. Finally, it was in May that I recognized the gravity of my own addiction, and how short my life was going to be if I didn’t get the help I so desperately needed. So, you can see why for me the word “recognition” stands out so vividly in my mind as I approach my most formative month.
When I think of the power of recognition there are three components I want to highlight. The importance of recognizing others and expressing it to them. The significance of self-recognition, and owning it. And third, recognizing that nothing in life is permanent.
According to awardforce.com, when we give recognition to others, it has the power to dictate a person’s notion of self and their perceived value (self-worth). Now, if you have read past editorials of mine you know that I am a firm believer that worth is intrinsic, eternal, and unwavering for every human being. However, even I can acknowledge the need for external validation and appreciation. When we give recognition to others we are able to celebrate their successes with them and in turn celebrate them as a person. We can learn from Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, that when a person feels celebrated, they feel accepted. This feeling of acceptance then leads to higher self-esteem and confidence, as well as a sense of self-respect, and respect for others. As you can see, the need for validation and recognition is not about pride or ego. It cuts to the core of who we are and how we thrive.
Self-validation and self-recognition is even more important than external validation. Appreciate who you are and how you got to be where you are today. No human is perfect and we should never expect perfection from ourselves. The truth, however, is that for most of us it is easier to acknowledge and recognize our flaws than it is to recognize our strengths. We should never forget that each and every one of us deserves to be successful and happy. Recognize everything that makes you uniquely you, and own it! Recognize all that you have accomplished. Look inward and reflect on who you are as a human. What virtues do you embody that make you proud? Are you humble? Are you kind? Are you courageous and vulnerable? Do not let the smallest detail about your strengths go unnoticed and remind yourself of them daily. You are significant, and there is no one like you! Recognize yourself and the beauty you are.
Lastly, recognize your humanity and make the best out of every moment. Live for the present moment and appreciate your place in life. Buddha taught his followers to recognize the impermanence in their lives. To westerners, the concept of impermanence may be new, but with a little thought you can easily grasp the root of the teaching. Nothing in life is permanent. Every-thing, every moment, every hour, every minute, every second, has a beginning and an end, or a birth and a death. When we can recognize this in our own lives, we can start to live for the present moment. We can recognize that no pain will last forever and there are brighter days to come. In turn, we can then have the humility to recognize that just like all sorrow will eventually end, happiness and joy will too. Recognizing impermanence can ground us in the moment and help us appreciate the good times in life, while at the same time reminding us that even the worst pain and struggles in life will not last forever.
Here is my challenge to you, or a “call to action” some might say. For the month of May:
- Every morning when wake you, look in the mirror. Out loud, recognize one strength or accomplishment from the day before.
- Throughout the day, make it an intention to recognize a strength or accomplishment in another person. Express it to them with sincerity.
- Before you go to bed, recognize one thing in life that is impermanent and one thing you are grateful for.
Come June 1st, it is my wish that each and every person that accepts this challenge will see the power of recognition in your own life. Do you have a stronger appreciation for others? Do you have higher self-esteem? Has recognizing your own morality awaken the compassion in your heart?
Live life abundantly,
Eric A. Bragazzi
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